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The guilt you think you have for saying good bye disappeared once I put it where it needed to go. We do our due diligence to make sure she is taken care of and keep our distance from her.
Funny how evil lives so long. I believe once mom passes on, we as kids will finely have our freedom. My Mom died at I never did the no contact because I would have lost the entire rest of my family, cousins. When my mother died my life finally changed and I am at peace. Living with my mom when I was in my 30s with my daughter was living hell.
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My father did all that and I can remember from the time I was 3. I used to wish she would just die when I was 18 so I could be free of her abuse. She hated me without cause. I learned to forgive her as when praying for her years ago when she was alive, God's spirit showed me it was my lack of forgiveness towards her that was causing me to sin. So I prayed and forgave her but the abuse never stopped till she had Alzheimers and then died.
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While I mourn the loss of not ever really having had a mother, and wishing I had that person to share life's milestones with. I was actually afraid to have children, because I didn't want to continue to pass on that cycle. It was actually easier to raise them along with my husbandwithout having my parents in the picture. I would not have wanted them to see, or be subjected to any of that vicious venom and negativity that was my upbringing.
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I am her only child left, Now how cold is that?
Not saying I am perfect by any means but I do not deserve. She is still trying to ruin my name and hate on me, but jokes on her because I refuse to give anyone, especially someone who is not adding value to my life that kind of power ever. She's lonely and I sincerely believe she expresses her self hate onto me, I am by the way the younger version of.
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She is a hurt soul who needs healing, and I truly feel bad for. Connect with good people, learn from them and fly with eagles.
It will get better, no matter how things look!! Appearances ARE deceiving. And, One day, your mother may just come around and see how she is missing out on such a beautiful creation! Much love, hugs and prayer goes out to you, for I truly understand how you feel.
You are NOT alone Smile Always! I know how you feel my mother never ever talked to me and we had no perdonal relationship what so. We never had the period talk, the birds and the bees talk or the college talk we never talked at all. It's part of the reason why I have issues developing into a women no one taught me how too be one. Don't give up on you! Your worth so much more then your parents have taught you to believe!
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